Sex Tricks Every Woman Should Try Before Her 40th Birthday ( Part 2)

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Sex Tricks Every Woman Should Try Before Her 40th Birthday ( Part 2)

The more ‘sex‘ you have with yourself—the more sex you’ll crave, says Kat Van Kirk, Ph.D., a licensed marriage and sex therapist and the resident sex expert for AdamandEve.com. Plus, masturbating in front of a mirror will help you feel more confident during sex, since you’ll see what your partner sees—which is pretty freaking hot, says Claudia Six, Ph.D., a clinical sexologist, relationship coach, and author. So get down with yourself where you can see your whole body. “Watch how your body moves in response to your touch. Watch your face as you get aroused and orgasm. Own it!” says Six.

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Watching how your body moves in response to your touch.

The studies

Studies suggest that only about one in three women orgasm from boning alone, says Brame. While your mood and the position you’re in could be to blame, your O could be stunted by a lack of foreplay, she says. Over time, that makes sex seem like a chore. So make foreplay non-negotiable. Sometimes, female bodies need extra stimulation to increase the blood flow necessary for orgasm, while men automatically have that blood flow as soon as they get hard. “The female sexual response cycle tends to need more stimulation than men,” agrees Van Kirk. Feel free to self-stimulate or direct your partner to stimulate you as needed, she says.

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Woman undressing for man

Whether it involves a sex toy or just your own body and imagination, showing self love during sex shows your partner the routes he can use to pleasure you, says Jane Greer, Ph.D., a New York-based marriage and sex therapist and author of What About Me? Stop Selfishness From Ruining Your Relationship. “Make your own pleasure a priority and you’ll find that sex is both more frequent and satisfying for both you and your partner,” says O’Reilly.

A spicy way to mix up your sex routine is playing with your senses. “Sensation play is a form of BDSM where you stimulate the body using objects and substances for sensual effect,” says Cadell. Try sucking on an ice cube before performing oral sex or cover your eyes with a blindfold during sex or foreplay. Doing so accentuates all your other senses and might squash some of your inhibitions.